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Re: “Did an NC Pride official assault a Black Lives Matter marcher in the Pride Parade?

I got assaulted by someone who works for the organization that plans the OutRaleigh festival, two days after the event took place, a few years ago. The conversation began as a question of why women dress like men. As a known member of the queer community, and the only queer person at the bar, I was expected to respond. Quickly, the people around us turned angry. I was told that gay people are pedophiles, that if gay people were allowed to get married, there would be orgies in the streets. One employee's mother stated that she would have to tie me down to a chair to get me to listen and agree with her. So. I left, walked out to the parking lot. Where the son was standing. By my car, so I couldn't get to the door. He yelled in my face, told me he had guns, marked and unmarked, as if he would kill me if I told. Another employee was standing by, watching it happen, offering me no defense. After a long, strange tirade about the military and some friend of his who got shot, the son started complaining about how one of the other guys was always the one to get the girl, then he reached out, and pinched my side. Instantly, he could see the anger in my eyes, and he knew he had been wrong, cowering and stepping back, apologizing. But the damage was done. I scolded him. Gave whatever speech I could muster about how it's people like him who perpetuate the violence against all of us by making us all, young and old, feel like we can't report it when someone violates us. Or like no one will believe us. Or care. I told the organizer of the event what happened the next day. She called him and gave him an opportunity to deny it before she reached out to me. Still, she cried, saying it wouldn't have happened if she were there.

Of course it wouldn't- people violate you when they think they can get away with it. I told the Director of the LGBT Center of Raleigh what happened. He could tell what happened to me was wrong, but when I went to volunteer at the LGBT Center orientation a few weeks later, I was pulled into a room by myself by the two people running the training, to tell me I wasn't a good fit for the organization. Despite having known more people in the room than anyone. I told them the story of what happened two days after OutRaleigh. I told them about how, when I was volunteering during OutRaleigh, and they were looking for the Director of the LGBT Center, I saw him, and he boldly told me he had decided to stop answering his phone (and let his minions do all the work, the dirty work, of telling me I couldn't volunteer). They were stunned at my story. They even cried as I explained the bigger picture of how these things happen, get denied, and covered up. But, with one white guy in charge of such a big organization, what can we do?

We can use our words.

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Posted by poetadahood on 12/04/2015 at 11:33 AM

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