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Re: “The two faces of Bo Lozoff

Two notes: First, as to the public forum: I think it is appropriate because Bo himself set himself up as a public figure. He wrote published books. He gave public concerts and raised funds publically. He has been in the news. He presented himself in a certain way to thousands of prisoners in public institutions. He was a self-styled director of an organization that had a public function and, I believe, was non-profit. Second, as to the timing: Wouldn't it take some time to sort through one's complex feelings, gain perspective, and muster courage to tell the truth about something like this? Perhaps it would take a lot of therapy (but not "too much.") and self-examination, even personal growth. These folks who have come forth should be given credit for breaking the first rule of dysfunctional families: secrecy. It is not easy.

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Posted by laurielindgren on 09/02/2008 at 9:55 PM

Re: “The two faces of Bo Lozoff

I apologize for the misspellings and omissions from the previous post. This is my first post on any blog, and I should have proofread my comments. I hope you can still get the gist of what I was trying say. Good luck, Bo, with your healing. It is never too late to say, "I am sorry if I have hurt you." And addiction usually comes from intolerable pain. May your pain become conscious, tolerable, and be eased by grace and honesty. My heart goes out to the victims of both the sexual and the verbal abuse. May you find healing over time.

Posted by laurielindgren on 08/31/2008 at 4:39 PM

Re: “The two faces of Bo Lozoff

To use the lens of my understanding of addition theory, Bo could be viewed as a sex addict who has not even gotten to step of the 12 steps: "Hi, I am Bo Lozoff, I am an addict, and I am powerless over my addiction." Like most addicts, he weaves a web of lies, deceit, rationalization, and grandiosity to keep his enablers in line. Verbal abuse, one of the most most destructive weapons I know of, is used to discredit victims and challengers and to keep his power intact. All his "good works" are means to keep his self-image shiny and enlarged, and all the while he does not have to face his disconnected, dissociated parts, in other words, his Shadow. Bo seems to be very split into compartments which do not communicate wiht each other. I would like to hear from any professionals who have expertise in this area in an objective assessment of his condition.

He reminds me of Voldemort in that he seems to have very little remorse or consideration of the harm his actions have caused. A true spiritual giant would indeed simply say, "I did it, I am sorry," and make amends.

I applaud the Indy for a good piece of investigative journalism that may resound with many who now may be empowered to say, "No more." The public has a right to know!

Posted by laurielindgren on 08/31/2008 at 4:31 PM

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