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Re: “On the Dave Matthews Band and when old bands should break up

You know...I got so involved in my response to this particular band that I didn't even have a chance to respond to your other examples. Your other arguments make absolutely zero sense. You say the Stones made the right decision carrying on after Brian Jones passing, (rightfully) praise the two subsequent albums they release...and then fault them for carrying on...too long. Were they supposed to consult Jones' ghost on when exactly to hang it up? Otherwise, I fail to see the correlation. The same goes for Metallica. You cant have it both ways and say "Well, some bands lost members and made the right decision to stick around...but they should have stopped after X amount of years...". If you're trying to write an article about bands outliving their relevance, then write that article. Many bands stick around past their relevance, not just bands that have lost a member. And you are trying to imply (with your whopping sample size of The Band, The Stones, Mettalica, and DMB) that one size fits all when its clearly not the case.

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Posted by tonyp on 12/06/2012 at 11:59 PM

Re: “On the Dave Matthews Band and when old bands should break up

While I empathize with some of your points, I wholeheartedly disagree with the crux of your (poorly written) article. To try to tell anyone, let alone a group of people you don't even know, how to respond to the loss of someone close to them is not only extremely insensitive but ill advised and exercising poor judgement. If one of your co-workers passed away, would you stop going to work? If a member of a close group of friends passed, would you stop associating with them? My guess is no. Many people's way of coping with loss is surrounding themselves with friends/family that are going through the experience with you, and in my experience, it often brings them closer. If a member of your favorite sports team died, would you suggest that they forfeit the season? Or go out and play like hell in that persons memory and try to bring home a championship. I am in a similair place as a fan of this band...i have been to 37 shows since 1999, but only 4 since 2005. I grew up, the band's output wasnt very appealing to me, and they seemed to have lost that "spark". 3 of the 4 shows I've seen since 05 were after he passed and i have not seen the band this "hungry" for lack of a better term, since I've been a fan. There are numerous reports that 2005-2007 was a particularly troubled period for the band and it showed. After Leroi passed these people came together, lifted each other up and pushed forward with 2 very good records(Away From the World, in my opinion is their best record in over a decade), renewed energy, and by all accounts: a stronger relationship with each other. Leroi was an amazing musician and inspired countless people with his work...I'm sure his band mates included. Let him continue to be an inspiration to them and us and let his friends carry on his memory by keeping the band that he helped found and thrive, going..making kick ass music he would have been proud of, for our consumption. Leroi Moore passing away saved this band.

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Posted by tonyp on 12/06/2012 at 11:13 PM

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