One can see that most politicians get all the money they need. If you want to actually help fellow Durham citizens you might want to help send a couple students to university.
My name is Otto Ladensack. I am a devoted father and husband. My daughters were born in 1999 and 2001. I used to play with my girls every day. We played outside daily and I was proud that I made my girls smile all the time. They relied on me. They were used to dad pulling them in their wagon, building snowm.en, riding bikes, and taking pictures they could cherish in later years.
Then in 2004 I developed ulcerative colitis. It was an aggressive case. We tried steroids throughout the first year but every time I was taken off them I went back to being too sick to get out of bed. My doctor reached the conclusion that if I did not remove my entire colon, I was likely to develop cancer.
I survived but ended up disabled. I had my colon removed and had to wear an ileostomy bag for half a year. After my insides healed there was another surgery to restore my internal “plumbing”. This would be the beginning of a long road of gradual improvement. I was on as many as 16 medications. We had decent insurance but the copays alone were bankrupting us.
I lost a lot and at just 36 years of age. I had become disabled and was bedridden for a year.
What bothers me most though is looking at old pictures of my daughters. We were so joyful and they relied on me because they knew they could. Then the pictures stopped; our outdoor fun had to be shelved for a later time; and my girls, Em and Nikki saw me deteriorate in so many ways.
My daughters’ classmates knew about our situation and my children talked about my extended hospital stays. Unfortunately my little girls were told by their classmates that I was dying and that they weren’t being told the truth. My oldest was 6 years old and was terrified.
My wife tried to get them in to visit me, so they could be reassured that I was okay, but was often told by staff that children weren’t allowed. Now Nikki is 16 and she is still affected by my poor health. She learned that I might not always be there, at too young an age.
Em, my younger daughter, ended up staying back a year and still has some learning difficulties. This is largely because I wasn’t able to help Emily with her work and often couldn’t care for her as attentively as I should have.
All I can do now is make their futures better where I can. We’ve managed to climb out of the huge debt my disease created but were forced to use up their college fund.
I hope to fix that. I can’t undo the past but I can try to provide them with a successful and happy future. My girls work hard in school. They take pride in making the honor roll on a continual basis.
My girls are 14 and 16 now and I hope to raise at least enough money to cover each of my daughter’s first year's tuition. I conservatively estimate this will cost us $20,000.
It is sad that their lives were turned upside down at such a vulnerable age. I can’t change that but am willing to humble myself to improve their lives now and in the future.
Any funds that go beyond our goal will be donated to the Durham Rescue Mission. Thank you.
Part of the problem is just bad driving in general. About 10% of us seem to signal turns and lane changes. I don't get it because with minimal practice it becomes automatic.
Another issue is that most drivers often cut across an oncoming lane when turning onto another road. This is illegal because it involves driving in someone else's lane. It is not so hard to move up far enough that one can turn from a right lane into a right lane.
Also most drivers around Durham don't seem to know what a yield sign means.
I don't know how much of this is applicable to the cyclists but the cutting across another's lane sounds like it may be what harmed Winberry. As for the rest, we all see, and are forced to tolerate, poor and irresponsible drivers everyday.
Regardless of everything else, with the father's estrangement and the mother's constant presence, that child should have been left in the custody of a close relative of the mother. Leaving him with someone he doesn't know, after ruining his attachment to his mother is abuse. Hill criticized the injustice to the boy and then added to it.
I don't subscribe to organized religions but I think they are hitting all of the important issues and telling government to put the average family first.
Why are we giving criminal records to peaceful protesters? The news hasn't said much on that aspect.
Would you rather young incoming women don't know how victims are treated at the school? Maybe you'd want to send your own daughter to such a place? Where is your priority?
I am hearing a lot of accusations about a rush to judgment and that UNC deserves to be given a chance before we make up our minds. Where did they give her a chance rather than go after her without having fully investigated the matter? Further, how is it a violation to stand up for one's self? If the truth hurts then maybe they need to fix themselves.
I also find it doubtful that this woman would persist if the rapist were not guilty. Crystal Mangum was the exception; in most cases a rape victim will not look to bring attention to their matter. Furthermore, there is more than one woman charging them with blaming the victim instead of putting yet another stain on the school.
UNC cannot seem to go a few months without another scandal involving the mishandling of students, or violations of the law. I do not know all of the facts yet, partly because UNC tried to stifle the matter; but what I do know is that they seem to lack credibility where it comes to properly handling these matters. I would guess that most of the victim-bashers on this board are letting some dumb allegiance to a sports team or to their Alma Mater cloud their vision.
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