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Re: “Cry of Love vocalist Kelly Holland died depressed, but not alone

I thought it best not to respond to comments here because I contributed to the piece by being interviewed. After reading a few comments, however, I'm "stimulated" enough to say some things.
First, Corbie Hill was doing his job. Because he never met Kelly doesn't disqualify him from writing an article about his last days. Do you think every reporter writing a posthumous article on Prince ever met him? Of course not, so don't look at this like it was a "personal" thing, few writers know personally their subject matter.
Second, Who is Kent Thomas? Kent Thomas is the guy who basically saved Kelly from eventual homelessness. Kelly was kicked out of his Apt., living in a really seedy, crime ridden, dangerous part of Raleigh and Kent took Kelly out of that situation and brought him to his place, rent free. Kent was the guy who stepped up and took Kelly into his own domicile and asked for nothing in return. He tried to help Kelly help himself, and for that I'm grateful, so to answer the question. Kent is the good guy who came along and helped a good guy in need. Kent is way more than that, naturally, but that is why he's my hero in this story.
Third, I agree with Jeff Dennis, I'd liked to have seen a different angle to the story. Believe me, I gave Corbie a lot of info, from funny stuff Kelly and I got into as well as more serious, somber moments that arise from almost 30 years of friendship. Yet there isn't room in any article to use everything every interview subject says. You see, writers have editors, and Corbie could have put some funny story I told him in there, only to have his editor remove it. It isn't just up to Corbie, so cut the guy some slack on that. But yeah, it would have been nice to have read more about Kelly's rise/success than not. Kelly was an incredible songwriter, obviously a huge vocal talent, but he wasn't Jesus, so I guess whomever made the call to angle the story the way they did simply felt the way they went was the way to go, and yeah, that I would have preferred to have been different. In Corbie's defense, he was writing the facts as they were given to him, and sadly, yes, most of the stuff you don't like reading about Kelly is 100% accurate and true, and that's how Kelly would want it. He didn't sugarcoat things and he did not suffer fools gladly.
Lastly, towards the end of his life, it appears Kelly "shifted" his set of friends from his long term, "known them forever" set to a new group of people a lot of his old friends didn't know. I think he had his reasons, and I don't think I need to explain my theories, it was Kelly's business. But it caused confusion in a lot of people's minds, I think it was not unlike when an animal goes off alone into the woods to die, I think life had forced Kelly to his knees, the betrayals (you know who you are, girl, shame on you). Add to that (over the previous years) the loss of his sister, dad, then the recent loss of the woman he loved most in the world, his mom, he'd just given up. To quote Paul Westerberg, "They say a man in pain will prepare to die." Whether Kelly did it knowingly or not, I've no idea, but I think he knew what he was doing. Kelly was a smart guy, that is all I can really say.
I love my friends, and I love Kelly to this day. If you are my friend, I love you, too. But today marks 3 years since I got the call from JD and my world was shattered. Clark McQueen texted right after. It was one of the worst days of my life. Yet it makes me angry to read "this story isn't true" or "Who is this Kent Thomas?" The story is true, I wish it weren't, Kelly did (just like we all do) create some of his own problems. That doesn't make him a bad person, though. It's not a negative thing to say "The guy was human." We all are flawed, we all have faults. The bigger picture for me is a lot of folks loved Kelly, including me, and Kelly loved a lot of people. I think the sad thing here is that Kelly probably couldn't see just how many people really loved him and wanted the best for him, it was just something he couldn't see. I wish he could have seen the outpouring of love for him over the last three years. I don't think it will stop anytime soon.
I also think it's a shame that no one acknowledges Kelly's daughter, Alexa, who is a mom now (making Kelly a grandfather at the time of his death. I don't even know if he knew she'd had a baby. Maybe having such a young grandson would have given him a little more incentive to live, I just don't know). Nothing against Elijah, who has grown up to be a fine young man from all reports. I just know Alexa is out there, had a relationship with Kelly but somehow falls under everyone's radar.
My apologies to anyone I may have upset by stating my case, apologies for the length and stay close to love wherever you find it.

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Posted by Chuck Harrell on 02/24/2017 at 3:57 PM

Re: “Nominate your favorites

In the future, you may want to include more categories in the fitness section. A lot of those businesses listed as "gyms" are actually boutique fitness studios that offer yoga, cycling and other fitness classes and not a full functioning gym with weights and treadmills, etc. Places like Ride Cycle Studio, Burn and SYNCStudio cater to a much different clientele and have different business models and it's unfair to them and to more traditional gyms like Fitness World, O2's and YMCA's to be grouped in the same category. Same goes for Crossfit loctations. Why not a best Crossfit location as opposed to having at least a dozen crowding the "gym" category? Also maybe instead of simply Best Personal Trainer, also add Yoga Teacher, Cycling Instructor or Group Fitness Instructor.

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Posted by RobinSusan on 02/24/2017 at 3:50 PM

Re: “Nominate your favorites

@Alexis S., there is an option at the bottom of each category to write in a candidate that is not already listed.

Posted by Susan Harper, INDY Publisher on 02/24/2017 at 1:05 PM

Re: “Orange County’s Board of Adjustment to Determine Whether the So-Called Party Barn is Really Being Used as a Farm

http://barnofchapelhill.com/exciting-start/

Starting at the top, looks like a barn. By the end it definitely does not look like it will be used for a barn at all. They may use it to store the tables and chairs.

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Posted by Clutchfan25 on 02/24/2017 at 10:43 AM

Re: “Fourteen Years Ago, Michael Peterson Was Convicted of Killing Her Mother. Now, Caitlin Atwater Breaks Her Silence in an Exclusive Interview.

Kenneth Fine, I follow your articles written for the Indy and because I, as well, knew Kathleen and our dear Caitlin, I believe this is without a doubt a perfect piece. Many people want to know that Caitlin is faring well, despite the recent Alfred Plea. And yes, according to your interview and her ability, through her trust in you, she illustrated that she remains the incredible self possessed person she was during her upbringing. To provide for her own children what her mother gave her is a testament to an incredible response to her tragedy. She's her mother's legacy and wonderfully demonstrating that. Great work, my friend! What a gift you provide for your followers. Wendy

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Posted by Wendy Girl on 02/24/2017 at 10:21 AM

Re: “Raleigh Raises Fees on Developers

The fees may cover the cost of administering permits etc, but what about the cost of building and improving roads around the new development, water and sewer to it, new schools and fire and police coverage for it? Is that kind of cost paid fully by the developer? Or does it come out of all the pockets of taxpayers and enrich the developer?

Posted by Elliot Nelson on 02/24/2017 at 7:16 AM

Re: “Scott Crawford Refused to Sell Us a Plate of Food at Crawford and Son

First comment sounds like Crawford wrote it.

Posted by Chris Kassel on 02/24/2017 at 2:48 AM

Re: “Abandoned mobile homes plague North Carolina

I am interested in getting one of these mobile homes to fix up for my family...how can I obtain one? Can email me at whicharddiana@gmail.com. ...I live in pitt county.

Posted by dee78 on 02/23/2017 at 11:09 PM

Re: “With Blue Cactus, Steph Stewart and Mario Arnez Embrace the Gaudy Trappings and Heavyweight Emotion of Classic Country Music

wow. That's amazing. I saw them a few years ago as the boyfriends and I predicted she would have an affair with him and run off with him. Won that bet!

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Posted by Bluetrain on 02/23/2017 at 9:56 PM

Re: “Orange County’s Board of Adjustment to Determine Whether the So-Called Party Barn is Really Being Used as a Farm

What the neighbors should do is get together and apply to open a couple of junk yards, a cement plant, a shooting range, and a real factory farm with pigs. That would fix the Brewer's little red wagon. I wonder how many weddings you could have next to that stuff. lol If the county won't reign them in, the nieghbors can!

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Posted by Bluetrain on 02/23/2017 at 9:52 PM

Re: “Orange County’s Board of Adjustment to Determine Whether the So-Called Party Barn is Really Being Used as a Farm

Developers here in Chapel Hill and Orange county are CONSTANTLY trying to game the system. We just booted a mayor and half a town council over this kind of shenanigans. As I watch a seven story high rise one right after the other go up right beside my single family home with no road improvements.... Money talks with these folks.

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Posted by Bluetrain on 02/23/2017 at 9:49 PM

Re: “Nominate your favorites

I do not see an option to nominate. I only see categories that have entries already added. I want to nominate a few businesses. Help.

Posted by Alexis S. on 02/23/2017 at 9:31 PM

Re: “Orange County’s Board of Adjustment to Determine Whether the So-Called Party Barn is Really Being Used as a Farm

In response to Joseph Pepe's comment: there's nothing realistic about letting the Brewers and Southeast Property Group game the system to build their event center. Are they entrepreneurs or are they farmers? Applying for a special use permit to build an event center on property zoned for residential and farm use sounds like they're entrepreneurs. Unfortunately for them, the Board of Adjustments correctly denied the permit because the event center wasn't in harmony with the property's surroundings. So they played their next card - they somehow obtained a USDA farm number, changed their application to say they were a farm and that their $735,000 building was a utility building, not an event center, and received approval from the Orange County Planning Department. I guess that's the point where they began to identify themselves as farmers. Nobody is being sandbagged here except maybe the rural community surrounding the event center.

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Posted by sbeeman on 02/23/2017 at 4:22 PM

Re: “Orange County’s Board of Adjustment to Determine Whether the So-Called Party Barn is Really Being Used as a Farm

The question has been raised "how many tractors are stored in the Brewer's barn?' How many tractors does it take to grow flowers, chestnut trees, or manage bee hives to produce honey? I would think you could accomplish all of that withour the use of a tractor. And how many executives who manage the many "corporate farms" live on those farms. Let's be realistic and allow the entreprenurial spirit raised by this young couple to florish and not be sandbagged. Incidentally, doubful that you will find a tractor anywhere near a "fish" farm.

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Posted by Joseph Pepe on 02/23/2017 at 11:07 AM

Re: “Raleigh Raises Fees on Developers

WakeUP Wake County spoke at the public hearing in support of raising the development fees because with rapid growth, there is a cost of doing business. Developers should cover the costs to the city in order to keep the burden off taxpayers.

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Posted by Karen Rindge on 02/23/2017 at 9:47 AM

Re: “Orange County’s Board of Adjustment to Determine Whether the So-Called Party Barn is Really Being Used as a Farm

So many questions come to mind after reading this article. In the photo attached to the article, the Brewers are shown watering their "orchard" with water they brought to the property. Why? Because after owning the property for two years and planting 36 chestnut trees and a small flower bed, they apparently have not yet put in a well on their property. That's right, a farm with no water for irrigating their crops. If they're primarily a farm and the wedding events are incidental to farm use, why is building the barn and booking the weddings taking priority over digging a well? Second, Chris Brewer of Southeast Property Group is quoted as saying " We could have built a barn with four poles and a roof but if we make it a little bit nicer...we can also do weddings as well." Apparently building a $735,000 barn on a quarter-million dollar property with a lighting budget of $78,000 for the chandeliers alone is what he means by a "little nicer." It just doesn't ring true that a real farmer who wants to hold weddings in their barn to supplement their farm income would spend $735,000 on building a 4200 square foot barn (including $78,000 to spend on chandeliers) the sole farming purpose of which is "to process flowers and chestnuts in the late fall." Sounds to me like "alternative facts" from the Brewers. Finally, I'm perplexed by David Owens opining that the weddings are "pretty clearly incidental" to the flower farm. The evidence that I heard presented at the October Board of Adjustment hearings (read the minutes here: http://preserveruralorange.org/uploads/BOA…) doesn't make that clear at all, and as the article says the BOA seems to doubt that the Barn of Chapel Hill is anything other than an events center. The Orange County Planning Department believes their hands are tied because the Brewers have a USDA farm number and are thus considered a bona fide farm and exempt from zoning regulations that apply to commercial endeavors. (Why they were able to obtain a farm number for 22 acres of wooded property that they had never farmed is unclear.) But if nonfarm uses on a farm property ARE NOT exempt from county zoning rules, then common sense tells us that this $735,000 event center disguised as a utility barn on a property with farming activity that is clearly secondary should not be exempt.

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Posted by sbeeman on 02/23/2017 at 9:47 AM

Re: “Chapel Hill had to decline FEMA money to buy flood-prone condos at Camelot Village

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Posted by MelissaMueller on 02/23/2017 at 5:32 AM

Re: “In an Open Letter, 2,943 Fellow Duke Alumni Ask Trump Senior Adviser Stephen Miller How He Became Such a Horrible Person

Kayt, I think we could be friends too. Looking for areas where we agree and then exploring ideas together would probably go a long way to bridging the gaps that develop in discussion areas like this. If we did that, I'd have to admit that I am very uncomfortable with how cozy the democratic party has become with the banking industry, and I'm very uncomfortable with how little attention the democratic party pays to the level of income inequality that has arisen in the past 40 years. I'd still want to ask you about supporting a man like T who behaves and talks the way he does (and has for many years). I'd also be interested in why you think that the federal government is run by elites trying to tell us how to run our lives. I think of the federal government as a partner in accomplishing the will of the people.

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Posted by Rich 1 on 02/22/2017 at 9:59 PM

Re: “In an Open Letter, 2,943 Fellow Duke Alumni Ask Trump Senior Adviser Stephen Miller How He Became Such a Horrible Person

So stating a plea that stems from shared experience in this open letter is a left rant? How would you prefer they state it? Calling out intolerance is not intolerance. Sorry. Bigotry of bigotry is not an attack on diversity of thought. It's the same thought over and over across history. It's not diverse. It's one color that repeats itself over and over, striving to wash out any color that challenges it's power and brightness. You are correct it is intolerance of bigotry and intolerance. Intolerance of intolerance= Tolerance.

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Posted by Jeffrey K. Miller on 02/22/2017 at 5:36 PM

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