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Rep. Jackson: Take a stand against bullying

24 JUN 2009

Editor's Note: Rep. Darren Jackson is a freshman legislator from Wake County. As Bob Geary posted on the Citizen and Triangulator blogs Monday night, Jackson, a Democrat, was part of the 59-57 House majority that passed the anti-bullying bill. The House was holding a final reading at press time Tuesday. The Senate already has passed the measure. If the House gives the final OK Gov. Beverly Perdue is expected to sign it into law. Jackson's comments on the House floor before the vote were particularly poignant. We're reprinting them here. —Lisa Sorg



Thank you, Mr. Speaker. I got a letter from a constituent that I'd like to read a little bit about tonight in this forum.

She wrote, "I am the mother of a son with autism. I truly cannot comprehend the reluctance of any legislator to pass this bill. Bullies do exist, and they make life miserable for those unable to defend themselves. In a civilized society, why do we allow this? My son is bright but different. Eccentric some would say. Unfortunately, this difference can be the catalyst for teasing and taunting, sometimes in a subtle form, and sometimes in more flagrant acts involving an emotional and physical violation. I know all too well that children can be cruel. It's up to the adults in their lives to teach them acceptance and tolerance. Students learn more than academics in school, and part of their education should include how to treat others with respect and dignity and look to peers for support, not how to dodge a fist."

We can begin the process of tolerance tonight by taking a stand against bullying for any reason. I know some of you in this chamber have been having these culture wars for many years. This bill is not about that. At least it shouldn't be, and it's not for me. Instead, it's personal, and I apologize for that.

Friends, God didn't make us all exactly alike. Sometimes these perceived differences lead to bullying. Maybe the victim is a girl in middle school who is larger than her male counterparts, and likes sports, and is called a tomboy—or worse. Maybe it's a disabled child with autism who's called freak, weirdo, or even much worse names and is physically assaulted at school. Maybe it's your child, your grandchild, your niece or nephew. Or maybe the victim is a 10-year-old little boy who just finished the fifth grade. Maybe he's real small for his age, the smallest in his class. Maybe he doesn't like contact sports, but instead loves to dance and sing and perform in the school production. He's a natural. Maybe he's a fan of soft colors and likes to wear pink, like his dad. Maybe he's blessed to have his mother's good looks and beautiful skin and soft facial features. Maybe he likes to hang out with girls because he's not rough enough for the boys.

Maybe because of all these things, he's called sissy boy, gay, homo or even worse. Perhaps his father is absolutely terrified of what middle school and high school will have in store for such a wonderful little boy. Maybe his parents or his teachers tried to teach him not to act a certain way or to talk about certain interests in front of other boys because it just leads to more bullying. You might say that they encourage him to hide his true personality. And why? Shouldn't he be free to be himself? He's not hurting anyone. He should be free to be what God made him. He's 10. He doesn't know what he is.

This bill simply says that no child should be bullied even if they are perceived to be poor or disabled or maybe different. This bill's about protecting kids; at least, it is for me. If this bill prevents one suicide, or one school violence episode, then it's a success. If this bill is passed, then it will be a step forward for protecting children—maybe even one close to you.

If you're going to vote no against this bill, at least be honest with yourself about why you're doing it.

I'm going to count my vote as yes. And when my daughter and I, who's serving as page this week, go out to eat and go home tonight, I'm going to go see her little brother, who'll be in bed asleep. I'm going to lean across that bed and kiss my 10-year old goodnight. And I'm going to know that I voted the right way, the way to protect him and other children like him. And if that costs me my seat in this chamber, then so be it.

I hope you'll join me in voting yes.

7 COMMENTS

It's refreshing to hear a politician speak truth to power. He's serving the public interest, not special interests. Because it is in all of our interests that school bullying for any reason cease.
by Alan Robinson NC 25 Jun 2009, 4:53pm Report this comment
Amen, and God Bless Representative Jackson AND his 10 year old son :>) Ed
by edfarthing (edfarthing@charter.net) , Hickory 25 Jun 2009, 5:55pm Report this comment
My deep sincere appreciation to what Rep Darren Jackson did on the Floor of the House on Monday. He did so at great personal political risk, and he did so knowingly. We are all, not just the kids and the parents, but all of us, in his debt.
by mbrock49 (mbrock49@yahoo.com) Cary 25 Jun 2009, 7:23pm Report this comment
What a fantastic speech! Thank you Rep. Jackson. It takes courage like you showed the other night to stand up against bullies of all ages. We all appreciate your effort, your words and your understanding that all children are worthwhile. Thank you, thank you, thank you from a former 10-year old who loved to dance and act. I made it out of middle school alive and I think many more young gay boys will as well thanks to your efforts.
by shamedh27 Durham 25 Jun 2009, 10:02pm Report this comment
It is the job of any representative to look at bills from all angles, to get past all the gooey sentiment and determine what effect the bill will actually have in practice. Its creation of special class protection is blatantly prejudicial. I myself was bullied for years in the public school system for being "too smart." I was taunted, rejected socially, hit, pushed, etc. I know firsthand what bullying is like and how hurtful it is physically and emotionally. This is simply a bad law. It will be used more for the furtherance of the homosexual political agenda than anything else. The solution to the bullying problem is to vigorously enforce the anti-bullying policies that already exist at most schools. Make the punishment for bullying more severe for EVERYONE. Abolish protected classes! Justice in the courthouse and the schoolhouse should be blind.
by brentf777 Durham 28 Jun 2009, 2:16am Report this comment
My friend has a son who has been diagnosed with mental health issues. To date, his doctors have yet to find the right combination of medications to get his illness under control. The Guilford County school system doesn't seem to recognize mental illness as a disability (or even an illness, and some students seem to enjoy "pushing his button" and watching the meltdown that almost always occurs. Will this law protect students like the one I've described?
by jeko1958 20 Nov 2009, 7:30am Report this comment
The schools need to adopt a MENTOR program. The bill is weak on implementation, and with their limited resources, the schools will likely give it more lip service than action.

Studies show that when it comes to these things, students are much more influenced by their peers than adults. My son, a bright kid with a great sense of humor, and Asperger's Syndrome, has been completely isolated - past the point of breakdown. He will suffer consequences for the rest of his life.

by jcj Raleigh 20 Nov 2009, 10:17am Report this comment
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